The thread that is stitched through my lived experience within each of the roles I play is the truth and beauty that becomes available to me when I’m truly present with whom and what is in front of me. We spend a significant portion of our lives time-traveling into the future in attempts to control outcomes or back into the past trying to rewrite our story. What we miss is what’s right in front of us. The medicine we seek is seeking us in the quiet call back to the moment that lies before us. This is the raw and sacred space I aim to explore with clients. Meeting reality as it is with consciousness and the willingness to be open to what’s presenting itself is how I have navigated each of the roles I play in my life with the grit, honesty and compassion that they call of me.
I have observed that the chronic grief we carry from having to cast away vital aspects of ourselves creates symptoms that call our attention back to what’s broken. When we follow the thread of our symptoms, be it depression, flatness, anxiety, anger, avoidance, they lead us to the source of our shame and sorrow. It’s in reclaiming what’s been disowned in ourselves that we can show up as whole people, able to fully engage in the richness that our relationships, work, homes, communities, passions and convictions offer us.
I hold a transpersonal orientation in the work I do with clients, which simply means that I believe the basis of reality is first and foremost, spiritual in nature and that the work we are doing here in a given lifetime is to awaken to and deepen our relationship to the spark of spirit that lives within the hearts of each one of us. That it’s this very spark that animates the magic and beauty we long to manifest on the human and material plane of our experience.
We’re fascinated by the words, but where we meet is in the silence behind them.
-Ram Dass
I see all lived experience, both the unifying and fragmenting aspects of our histories, as fodder for our growth and expansion as beings. I have come to believe that as traumatizing as life can be for some of us, there is a wisdom and logic that underlies what we’ve been through and that if we can view our lives and our experience from a transpersonal lens, we can derive great meaning from our respective hero’s journeys and we can learn to transform any form of heartbreak and wounding into grace and wisdom. I intuitively bring in shadow work, parts work, meditation, visualization and soul retrieval work as it feels relevant and helpful to the process. Each client I work with is on their own singular healing path and it’s in honoring the rhythms and cadence of how they walk their path that determines the flow and pacing of the work we do together.
The way I approach working with clients looks at the whole Self and finds what needs to be repaired. It looks at our relationship with other and identifies where and why we don’t fully inhabit our ability to connect intimately with others. It looks at the landscape of our lives and what we’ve set up to support our wakefulness and what we’ve set up that fosters our self-forgetting. I see each client as a unique microcosm of the macrocosm, full of potential, beauty and the ability to heal and grow. The space we create together is a place where this can be seen, affirmed, nurtured and allowed to become the foundation of a more aligned and robust lived experience. I believe our self-esteem as individuals is hinged on our ability to identify and heal personal wounds, move through roadblocks, reconnect to and strengthen intuition, and develop a sense of deep self-trust, and unwavering connection to Self.
I am a deeply feeling, and deeply human man. I embrace this in myself and embrace this in my clients. I believe we are already fundamentally whole and that wholeness includes our shadow and our light, our pain and our joy, our flaws and our gifts. It’s in embracing and loving the whole of who we are, especially the parts we’ve deemed as unlovable that we begin the process of coming into true wholeness. The broken off or exiled parts of us want to be illuminated and re-integrated but this can only happen through the alchemy of love and compassion. Compassion and love are the waypoints that drive my own healing as well as the healing of others that are in my care.
I have always longed to be in the flow of the river of life. I’ve swum up river enough to know that I can no longer squander my precious life force moving against life. Regardless of life stage, gender/sexual orientation or ideology, it is a privilege to work with individuals that are called to wade into the river of life with me and discover what it means to flow with and not against the quiet and sacred pull that life is drawing each of us towards.
It is not our job to remain whole. We came to lose our leaves like the trees, and be born again, drawing up from the great roots.
-Robert Bly
